Do a self-assessment. Take a look at your own spiritual walk with God. God is always more concerned with your own heart than circumstances around you. Do a serious evaluation of your fears, insecurities, life-experiences, and your walk with God. When your heart is in alignment with God's heart, beautiful things happen. God looks for a humble heart that is characterized by obedience. When we are obedient to God, we are telling Him we love Him, and He's first in our lives!
Pray. God knows the desires of your heart. God knows your fears, hopes, and dreams. Be honest with God. There is nothing more powerful than to pray for your life-partner. It's even more powerful when you pray for them by name. During the prayer time its critical that you are content with God's will. Never elevate a person above God. If it's the right person, they will actually enhance your relationship with God. You have to get to a place where you simply trust God.
Be in the right place. Our environment shapes us more than we realize. If you want to have a God-honoring relationship, then put yourself in God-honoring environments. When your with other people who fear God, it motivates you to walk with God. The church is a great place to do this!
Here are some helpful websites to visit:
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are Christian relationship speakers and authors. They teach at Seattle Pacific University.
This is part of the Focus on the Family website that concentrates on issues related to dating and marriage. It's a trusted site.
Five Love Languages
This website talks about a book called "The Five Love Languages", which is written by Dr. Gary Chapman. The idea is everyone has one of these five love languages that drive their life.